Sex When You Are Sick

Episode 64: Sex When You Are Sick


Cindy Kennedy, FNP, is joined by Freda Hobbs, a Diamond Team Leader with Bedroom Kandi Boutique Parties. She’s an industry expert that has been featured in Forbes and works closely with a team of nearly 700 consultants nationwide creating safe spaces for people to talk about the most intimate parts of their lives.Originally from Camden, N.J., she currently resides in Glendale, Calif., with her husband Rodney. For more information, check her website,



Lyme/MSIDS can cause all sort of sexual dysfunction. Recently Dana Parish & Dr. Phillips took this on:


  • Dr. Phillips discusses sexual dysfunction in both men and women due to tick borne illness
  • Dr. Phillips sees men with painful testicles with recurrent Bartonella
  • Prostatitis is also common, where the prostate becomes swollen, tender, and inflamed
  • Some patients get anal and/or vaginal fissures (little painful cracks)
  • There’s libido issues
  • Vaginal dryness
  • Psychological aspects
  • Low Testosterone levels
  • Extreme fatigue
  • Sexually induced severe headaches
  • There can be a Pavlovian response in that if sex causes pain, it trains you to no longer desire it
  • Pre-menstral flares are common
  • Some male patients struggle with Balanitus, a painful swelling of the foreskin, or head of the penis, which affects roughly 1 in 20 males.  It’s been linked to autoimmunity conditions.  Dr. Phillips believes this to be the result of an undiagnosed infection.  He’s also seen it as a herxheimer reaction. It can take time to resolve.

This article also explains many of the psychological problems that can be problematic:


Dr. Bransfield describes ten psychological issues that may be risk factors for aggression in MSIDS that would be obvious players regarding sex and include:

  • Decreased frustration tolerance
  • Decreased impulse control
  • When the two above are mild they can be irritable. When extreme, they can become explosively angry
  • Hyposexuality and hypersexuality – both can cause interpersonal frustration
  • Obsessive compulsive behaviors which results in intrusive thoughts, images, and compulsions that sometimes are aggressive
  • Decreased bonding capacity
  • Increased startle reflex (particularly increased acoustic startle)
  • Hyper-vigilance and paranoia
  • Delusions and hallucinations

I haven’t written about this much but my husband heard voices, dealt with rage, anxiety, and had horrific nightmares that he could not distinguish from reality.  It would take me an hour to talk him down.  He also had a fixation that he believed I was having an affair.  This hurt the most.  I’d get up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, he’d wake up and think I’d been out all night.  The bizarre change in his behavior, particularly trust and confidence in me made me angry.  I wish I would have known then what I know now because I wouldn’t have taken it so personally.  This was not my problem or something I did.  It stems from a serious infection in the brain which can really affect behavior.  It helped to read every single thing Dr. Bransfield wrote.  He has single-handedly gotten the word out, and in a credible, scientific way, that Lyme/MSIDS is a very serious disease with mental health consequences.

To Dr. Bransfield! (lift your coffee cups here)
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